I’m an old man. Just a few days shy from being even older.
But.

I really appreciate the knowledge I gain everyday.

The most important lesson I’ve learned is that it is always beneficial to be vulnerable. It’s always beneficial to be honest. It always beneficial to own your faults.

When I took my first job as GM I committed myself to owning my performance. Good or bad. You get the best me.

For example. My first season, I over paid 6 servers a grand total of 3,500 dollars. I’d put them in payroll at a training wage and never changed it.

I called both my bosses and owned it. Trust me. It has never happened again.

And there were no repercussions. Just a reminder to be more careful next time.

I also own my mental health at work. I’ve had a million employees who suffer from depression, anxiety, bi polar disorder, borderline personality disorder.

I own my own issues as a way to let my staff know they are in a safe space. In fact I learned, with some coaching from my staff, that if I ask to see someone in the office to follow the request with you’re not in trouble. This after one employee had convinced herself I was going to fire her any minute.

So I have learned vulnerability is a good thing.

And I had a fucking great night at work tonight.

I apologized exactly three times. And by owning my size, my presence, my self I took up a lot less space tonight. And I told myself several times that I’m not in your way, you are in my way.

It felt great.

So friends. Be vulnerable. Be honest. Own your mistakes. Own your presence. Own your size.

Be you.

Good.

Bad.

Whatever.

Don’t apologize for being a person.

Don’t apologize for being you!!!