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Picture this Sicily, 1923. 

Actually, picture this.  New York City.  1983.  

My first trip to NYC. 

It was speech and drama students from Scott County Senior High School, seniors, who’d participated along the way.  Some of the specifics are a little fuzzy, but the stories are 100% true.  

My mother was pissed that I was going.  I’d never asked for permission.  I forged the permission slip.  When I told her, she asked who was paying for it, and I said I was.  By that time in my senior year things had gotten very contentious. 

We left on a Thursday.  We all piled in to Jason’s dad’s tricked out van. Our teacher Ms. Moore was driving.  The drive up was not memorable.  In fact, I remember nothing about it.  The trip back was much better with the story of all stories to share.  

We got to NYC and checked into the Howard Johnson, in Times Square.  I still have the ashtray from our room.  It’s on a shelf in my office.  

I don’t remember the order of the stories, but these are things that happened.  

One morning around 11:00 we all walked into a bar, sat at a table and ordered drinks. It was my first drink in a bar. I ordered a whiskey sour.  We were served, with no question.  

One of my classmates spent the night throwing up, and was HUNGOVER the next day.  VERY hung over.  

We went to Macy’s.  I remember the wooden escalators.  

We went to Tiffany’s.  There were four of us I believe.  We got our own personal security guard who followed us from floor to floor.  42 years later I’d get an engagement ring from that store.  

At one point we got on the subway, we had no idea where we are going.  We get on.  The doors start to close as a family is entering.  The mother and father get on, but the doors close in front of the daughter.  The subway starts to move and one of us says pull the cord, so the only time in all my time of riding the subway, someone pulled the emergency stop cord.

We WERE YELLED AT by a million people, but the little girl was reunited with her parents.  

The subway starts again, and we are immediately plunged into darkness.  We ride several stops with absolutely no lighting.  

We were on our way to the Bronx Zoo.  We ride and ride and finally get off.  We go up to the street.  And we are the only white people as far as the eye can see.  We weren’t scared, really, but a kind cop, suggested that we go back down and go back in the direction in which we came.  

One day, late afternoon, we are walking in Time Square, and a man approaches us about buying a camera. I had been wanting a camera and said, sure I’d buy a camera from him.  He tells me to follow him, and I very smartly gave my wallet to someone I was with.  I followed him with my 40 bucks and when I got there, he asked me for my wallet.  I said, I didn’t have a wallet but I had 40 dollars.  He took the money and left.  I looked around and there were people doing drugs in the entry way I was in.  Shooting up you might say.   Whoops.  Better luck next time.  

If any of you are wondering where our teacher was during all of this, she had sequestered herself in HER hotel room and was grading term papers.  We only saw her when it was time for dinner and a show.  

Speaking of shows.  

On the first night we saw CATS.  I remember I fell asleep during Act 2.  

However.  The show started late, because they were holding the curtain.  Around 8:15, there is a murmuring through the crowd and Jimmy and Rosalyn Carter enter and sit a few rows in front of us.  Along with Amy.  They both sign autographs during intermission, which I also have somewhere.  

During intermission, Ken Page, who was playing Old Deuteronomy, sat on stage and signed autographs.  I have that as well.  

The next night we saw 42nd Street.  I did not sleep through that.  To this day it’s one of my favorite shows.  I’ve designed it twice and seen it at least four or five times.  So fun, but no autographs.  

Of course, with our teacher grading term papers, there was much wandering the streets at night.  

One night we were out and about and met Edward Herrman.  I had no idea who he was.  

But.  

The biggest highlight of the trip was meeting Bob Hope.   It was at least 3:00 a.m and we were just walking around.  He just appeared.  We stopped him and talked to him for about 90 seconds.  He was wearing orange tennis shoes and was with a “bodyguard”?  I asked him for his autograph but all I had was a check and he wouldn’t sign it.  Which I find funny now.  

On one of the nights, we went to Sardi’s.  I remember very little about the dinner and I’ve never been back.  

Then it was time to head home.  

We are driving overnight.  And at some point, early in the morning, one of my classmates, who had really never participated in speech and only had done one show, starts having a vivid sex dream.  We all sat breathlessly, as she moaned and groaned her way down intestate 64.  We never knew if it was real, or if she was just doing a performance.  Finally, she climaxed and all was calm.  We all looked at each other and never spoke of it again. 

I’ll end by saying this.  I love seeing film and photos of NYC in the 70’s and 80’s.  I can’t explain it but that’s how I remember the city.  The smells, the chill in the air, the look and feel.  Those grainy pictures are exactly how it was.  The porn advertisement all over Times Square.  The prostitutes.  The edginess.  The questionable danger.  Scary and fun all at the same time.  

Today the city is in full cinemascope, with color and grandeur.  

But the 70’s and 80’s were a different story.  

PS.  It would be several years later that our drama teacher went back to NYC with students.   We had kind of ruined it for her.  

I’m not getting married today.

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This is my last gay pride post.  

Gay pride.  Will we even be allowed on the streets next year?  Dramatic?  I certainly hope so.  

As ALL of you know, Adam and I go to NYC a lot.  

We see a lot of shows. 

And we revisit the city in which we met.  

This past April’s visit was special.  We used it to celebrate my 60th birthday.  

Goddamn am I old.  

On Monday when we got there, Adam mentioned that he wanted to walk up 5th Avenue to window shop, see Rockefeller Center, the windows etc.  He also wanted to stop at Louis Vitton for cologne.  One of his favorite fragrances is from there and he wanted to see if they had a travel size.  

On Tuesday, we did just that.  We took a cab to Macy’s were we wandered through the watch department.  I have a gift card for Macy’s that I’m supposed to use on a watch, but I saw nothing I like, or could afford.  

After that, we wandered over to 5th Avenue and walked north.  

We indeed passed all of the landmarks.  

At 57th street, we passed Tiffany’s and rounded the corner to Louise Vitton.  They did not have his travel size, but he did buy a another fragrance that he liked.  When we left, we rounded the corner to head south and he said, lets go in here:  Tiffany.  

We went in, and were asked what we were looking for.   He replied,  men’s rings?  

What?  

Full disclosure.  For the past 10 years, every time we went to NYC, I’d joke that we should stop in Tiffany for a ring.  It fell on deaf ears.  Every single time.  

Last fall, I confessed to Adam that I didn’t care if we got married, but I wanted a symbol I could wear that let me know what I was his boyfriend.

Unbeknownst to me, he’d actually listened.  

We went to the fourth floor.  Men’s wedding rings.  

We were greeted by a lovely man who asked what we were looking for, then were were introduced to a woman who would help us.  

We sat down and she began to show us our options.  In silver.  I did not want gold.  I wanted silver.  

Fun fact.  The entire fourth floor is dedicated to engagement rings.  And wedding rings.  

Only 6 of them are for men in silver.  

I tried several on.  

It was not a hard decision. 

Actually, the ring we liked the best had Tiffany and Co written on it, which we did not like.  

I settled on a platinum band.  Simple. 

The woman helping us, sized the ring, and found the one I needed.  She put it on my hand and it fit like a glove.  More on that later.  

The next thing we knew we were being served champagne and cookie.  This might have had something to do with me telling her that we were getting engaged.  

She also took a photo for us, wrapped up everything in Tiffany blue packaging and sent us on our way. 

I’d told Adam that I wouldn’t wear the ring until he officially gave it to me.  

Fast forward to Friday night.  We saw The Picture of Dorian Gray.  90 minutes, and had reservations at Pastis, one of our favorite late night restaurants.  We got there early, and our table wasn’t ready.  

We walked across the street to a park to wait.  It was fun to people watch and reminisce about what the meat packing district had been when we both moved there.  It really was about meat packing for the gay community.  

We finally got a text and our table was ready.  We got back to the restaurant, and were seated at the absolutely worst table in the restaurant.  Seriously.  The worst.  

We had dinner, joking about how bad the table was.  

After dinner, we planned to walk back to our apartment.  I had to pee, but did not want to walk back down the stairs.  

As we left, Adam kept saying, we need to walk across the street.  I said no.  He said yes.  In our relationship, he wins.  

We walked across the street and sat down on a big rock.  He started to speak about us, our relationship etc.  Then he pulled out the tiffany box, opened it, and put the ring on my finger. 

I was almost moved to tears.  We kissed.   

Just then a couple walked by and I asked her to take out photo.  Turns out is was a lesbian couple who had just gotten married.  

The took our photo.  

Adam and I hugged and kissed and walked home.

By the time we got home, I realize the ring was too big.  My fingers had been swollen from the humidity when we bought it.  

The next day, we went back and traded it for a size smaller.  

I’ve worn it every day since.  

Are we married, no.  

Are we engaged?  Yes.  Although I did call him my fiancée and he told me to calm down, thus the reason for the two month delay in telling all of you.

But I wear my ring proudly every day.  And we are in the very beginning stages of figuring out what a wedding would look like.  

I’ll keep you posted. 

Pray, pray, pray. I pray I make PA.

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I mentioned a few days ago that a lovely lady named Marge, from Chicago, graciously paid me to apply and go to grad school.  Well, my portion of the lawsuit win did.  

I was old by grad school standards.  

I’d be 38 when I started, and 41 when I finished.  MOST theater grad students are in their late 20’s, early 30’s.  Looking back, I can see that more than even wanting to pursue a career in theater, getting my MFA had always been a bucket list item.  

Something, I needed to prove to myself that I could do.  

Around Christmas 2002, I started looking into schools that I wanted to apply to.  

I was lucky, in that I had a bit of a nest egg, so I could travel to take a look at different programs and their facilities, and then decide where I wanted to attend.  

Here’s a little throw back, back story for those who are interested.  

I’d already applied and been accepted to an MFA lighting program.  I’d even attended one semester.  To say it was not a good fit, was the understatement of the decade.  I was miserable from week one.  I did NOT click with the design professor.  I confided in the head of the design department, my concerns, who promptly shared my concerns with my professor.  At the end of my first semester, I was called in to an end of semester review and told that I had a bad attitude.  I looked at my professor and laughed, and said “Oh. My!  I thought it was you with the bad attitude.” When I left, I was on academic probation.  

I never went back.  

I called my professor’s office and told him that I wouldn’t be returning after the holidays.

My favorite bad attitude Jeff story, is that I was walking down the hall, during a work call, with a 2nd year lighting student, who was kinda my boss at the time.  A stage manager walked by, and asked me a question about a project we were working on.  About half way thru my answer, the lighting student, interrupted and said, you’ll need to answer that question on your own time.  Now is NOT that time.  

Needless to say, I never regretted for a second that I left.   And now having the ability to compare two programs, the two weren’t even in the same universe.  The professor I ended up with for all of his faults, was spectacular and he loved working with students.    

But I digress.

I was a bit delusional.  I hadn’t lit a show in three years, although I had a very nice resume and portfolio.  I had been focusing on earning a living, and had not done any theater.  I hadn’t even seen much theater.  

In January, I flew to West Lafayette, Indiana, to visit my friend Russ Jones.  I’d been his first design student as a professor at the University of Kentucky, and he graciously agreed to help me put my portfolio together. 

I’d spent a small fortune, printing about a million photos of my work.  It’s funny.  A photo taken with an I-phone now is a billion times better than the slides I was working with from 35 years ago.  

That being said, I’d done a TON of shows.  Musicals.  Dance.  Straight plays.  An opera or two.  I’d even lit Ben Vereen back in the late 80’s.  

We printed, and cut and glued and 24 hours after I got there, I had a brand-new portfolio case, filled with a pretty impressive portfolio.  

Now for applications. 

I was attending URTA auditions in NYC to see who might be interested in me.  I didn’t think I’d be accepted anywhere, so maybe the University of Detroit, in Wisconsin might be interested in an old man.  

That being said, I made a list of my top three choices.  

Yale.

NYU.

UCSD.  

I thought, if you are going to swing, swing big.  Even if you ARE delusional.  

URTA auditions were first.  And damn, did I get feeback.  Good feedback.  I didn’t feel as obsolete as I had a month ago.  Several schools showed interest.  Schools that I was interested in as well.  

A week or so after URTA auditions I had auditions scheduled with NYU and USCD.  

Full disclosure.  I never finished applying to Yale.  As much as I’d have like to have  gone there, even with the money I had in the bank, I’d be broke, broke, broke when I finished.  

My interview with UCSD went great.  I met with Judy Dolan and had a great conversation.  It was relaxed, comfortable and very down to earth.  

My interview with NYU did not go great.  It doesn’t matter who I met with, but when they asked me who my favorite Broadway lighting designer was, and I told them, the LD in front of me, said, “Well why isnt’ it me?”  The conversation did not flow.  It was anything but fun.  It was a job interview for a job I didn’t want.  

URTA auditions were in January.  

And I made decision to visit the schools I was interested in.  

University of Connecticut

University of Maryland. 

University of Missouri, Kansas City.  

University of California, Los Angeles

University of California, Irvine

Cal Arts.  

I visited all of the campuses.  

University of Connecticut.  (Had a great time.  Loved the visit.  But the theater looked very similar to the University of Kentucky Guignol theater.)

University of Maryland. (Loved the theaters.  Really liked the professor.  But the program was researched based and I wanted to be production based.  Saw an okay production of Hot L Baltimore.)

Cal Arts.  (I actually don’t remember a lot about it.)

University of Missouri, Kansas City.  (LOVED the LD professor, LOVED that it was associated with Kansas City Rep, saw a great production of Guy and Dolls.)

University of California, Los Angeles  (The interview started about 90 minutes late.  That’s all I remember.)

University of California, Irvine. (Loved the spaces.  Loved the LD professor.  All three of them.  Got to sit in on a class, that was awesome.  AND.  They taught Vectorworks which was important to me.)

UCSD.  (Loved, loved, loved it.  Loved Chris Parry.  Loved the spaces.  Loved that it was associated with the La Jolla Playhouse.  Hated that they didn’t teach Vectorworks.  Hated that the school didn’t design musicals, which I thought I wanted to do.)

URTA’s is a big deal for a lot of people.  And the rules are, that you can’t offer students admission until a certain date.  On that date it’s like joining a fraternity.  You get calls from teachers who offer you acceptance, and let you know financially how the school can help.  

I was accepted to all the schools I visited.  

Of the conversations I had, the saddest was with the professor from UMKC who said, I want you to come here, but I know that I can’t compete with UCSD and NYU.  If it doesn’t work out, let me know, we’d really love to have you.  

I didn’t accept anywhere right away.  

I had been waitlisted at NYU, and around this time, I was finally offered a place.  I didn’t take it because once again, I’d be broke, and homeless after paying tuition, and their spaces were kind of meh.  

I was waiting on UCSD. 

And waiting.  

And waiting.  

And waiting.  

I reached out to Chris and didn’t hear back.  

And waited.  

And waited.

Eventually, I accepted that I was not going to be accepted to UCSD.  

So, I called UC, Irvine and accepted their offer.  

24 hours later, Chris Parry called.  

What the fuckety fuck. 

Turns out, there had been a missed email, he’d been traveling, he’d been designing.  He called to offer me a spot.  Not a spot.  THE spot.  The only LD student they were accepting in 2003.  

Fuckety, fuck.  

I said thanks but no thanks. 

He wanted to know why, and I explained that I’d already accepted to UC Irvine when I didn’t hear back from him, AND UCSD didn’t teach Vectorworks, AND they didn’t do musicals.  

Chris ended up calling at least three or four times.  

AND.

At one point my phone rang and it was Walt Jones, the chair of the department at UCSD, explaining that we would figure a way to teach Vectorworks AND the department didn’t do musical but the La Jolla Playhouse did lot of musicals and if that’s what I was interested in, they’d be sure I worked on more than one or two.  

I said, let me think about it.

And for 48 hours, I fretted.

I’d already accepted at UC, Irvine.  

But I really wanted to go to UCSD.  

I called Chris and said, I’ll do it.  

I called UC Irvine back and said, I’ve changed my mind.  The LD professor never spoke to me again.  

In July of 2003, I moved to San Diego.

I lived in Hillcrest, the gay area of town.  Two blocks from Balboa Park.  

And the whole point of this gay article is to say, that for the entire month of August 2003, before classes started, I went to Black’s Beach.  The nude beach in San Diego.  It was not sexual at all.  It was nice normal people, sun bathing nude, and I happened to be in the best shape of my life.  

Trust me when I say, there is nothing better than swimming in the ocean nude.  

In mid-September, school started and I never went back to Black’s Beach.    

My three years at UCSD were perfection.  I made amazing friends.  I became a better artist than I ever thought possible.  I worked on brilliant shows that stretched all of my limits.  And I was never told I had a bad attitude.  

And Chris Parry, god rest his soul, was brilliant.  BRILLIANT.  He made it his mission to make sure the education he promised was the education I got.  

I learned Vectorworks, taught by someone from UC, Irvine.

And I designed two musicals while I was at UCSD, even though they don’t do musicals.  

Go figure.  

I will always love you.

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In 1989, I moved from Atlanta, back to Kentucky.

I won’t say I had a plan, but move back I did.

The first thing I did when I got home was to apply to get my Master’s Degree at UK. I’m not sure why, but I did. And I was accepted.

That same weekend, I went to a cast party for a UK show. If I’m not mistaken it was Best Little Whorehouse in Texas.

Funny the things you’d do as a youngin’ that you’d never do now.

There’s no fucking way, I’d just show up at a party, at someone’s house I do not know, and just invite myself in.

But I did. And I I had an okay time.

At the party, I met someone who needed a roommate. I needed a roommate.

It was perfect.

I began the process of looking for an apartment, and found one on Stone Avenue, near campus. It was the first floor of a house, with a basement, that my new friend said he’d be happy to make his bedroom.

Two weeks before school started, we moved in.

It was a perfect home, close enough to walk to school in five minutes, but big and comfortable.

I engrossed myself in classes. I worked as a TA, and worked in the scene shop building scenery.

Life was good.

I was asked to design scenery for a show.

Vampire Lesbians of Sodom.

It’s an awesome show. But I had no idea what I was doing.

Meanwhile, I was doing my thing and going out occasionally.

I WAS NEVER A BAR GAY. NEVER!

I didn’t enjoyed it. Dancing wasn’t my thing. I didn’t groove to the lastest dance mixes.

I would buy a Bud Light, stand in the corner and hope that no one spoke to me.

That’s what I was doing when I noticed a young cute guy across the bar watching me.

He noticed me noticing him.

I continued to notice him until the lights came up. I was on my way out, when suddenly a man pushed the cute boy into me and said, something caddy.

Then he looked at me and said, “Why, he’s even cute with the lights on.”

I introduced myself and said I’m Jeff.

He said, I’m Jim.

And we ended up dating.

It was a fun fall. We hung out a lot, and then he’d head home to his apartment and I’d head home to mine.

Until, one day I arrived home from classes around 5:30.

I realized that the patio doors from the drive way were open.

Then I noticed my bicycle was gone. And I looked around and lots of things were missing. My back pack. My boombox, my box of cassette tapes, my jar of change.

I called the police.

They came and I filed a report.

What I noticed while they were there and I was reporting the missing items, was that ONLY my things were gone. Two bikes, just mine was taken. Two back packs. Just mine gone. Two stereos, only mine was gone.

I’m not a brain surgeon, but it only took about 90 seconds to say fuck this.

By 9:00 a.m. the next morning, I’d moved out, broken the lease, and started the process of finding a new place to live.

Fun fact: When I got to school two days later and reported what happened, I also learned that according to everyone at UK, I was actually my roommates boyfriend and we’d been dating the whole time.

FUCK THAT!

What this did though was make it possible to move in with my new found boyfriend.

And we relocated to a standard issue 1989 apartment complex, not unlike every apartment complex in the country in 1989.

And we set up house. And lived happily ever after.

For about five minutes.

Because fun fact: In my youth I was a very, very, very bad boyfriend.

If you need proof, I can provide references. The list is not long, but it is unfortunate.

And because I was not a good boyfriend, within a year, we’d split up.

But we stayed in touch. And I was a better friend after the break up than I’d been when we were together. I helped him through some tough times, and he helped me as well.

The year plus we were together were a perfect snap shot of the late 80’s.

A trip to Miami to visit a friend, driving my new Suzuki Sidekick.

A concert in Cincinnati to see Depeche Mode. It rained and I ran so fast back to the parking lot to close up my car.

Doing drag at Halloween.

Being out at school and owning who I was for the first time ever.

Working together at three different restaurants, even after we broke up.

I remember so many good things, and yet, they are all overshadowed by the bad, that was almost always my fault.

UGH.

I was an asshole.

Actually, I was an asshole until 2001.

Then I stopped being an asshole.

Well to some people.

For years I wondered what happened to this boyfriend.

And then one day I found him, or he found me on Facebook. And I get to watch him be happy across the country. I’m glad that he is happy.

And I hope he knows, how much I admire him and honor who he has become.

And it’s because of people like him, Adams gets the nice Jeff.

Color and light. There’s only color and light

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I woke up today to lots of fun on the internets.

Seems that the Olympics started yesterday.

And there was an opening ceremony. That did not resemble the pomp and circumstance of previous Olympics.

People are outraged.

Outraged I tell you.

My opinion.

Which no one asked for.

This might be the most successful opening ceremony in the history of opening ceremonies.

Why you ask?

Because more than 24 hours later its still in the news. It’s still being talked about. People are aguing about it. There are hate posts. There are love posts. People are going to boycott. People are going to never watch sports again.

And I think it’s wonderful.

It’s ART.

And it did what it’s supposed to do.

It made you feel.

I’ve never taken an art class.

But I’ve taken a million theater classes. And we spend hours asking: what is theater. What is its purpose? Why do we do it? Should it be pretty and fun? Should it make you question your beliefs? Should you leave the theater singing it’s showtunes? Should you be mad? Will it make you call your therapist on Monday morning to schedule a session.

And the answer is yes.

Absolutely yes.

Theater aka ART, should make you think.

And this opening ceremony is doing just that.

Is it devil worshiping?

Is it celebrating the origins of the Olympics?

Is it pagan?

Is it celebrating art and diversity in the world in which we live?

Is it kid friendly?

Does it support the athletes?

I could go on and on. The answers are yes. And no. And maybe. And of course not. And absolutely.

And only you get to decide what answer applies to what question.

You.

You who brings your lifetime of baggage to the question.

And the fun part is, YOU DON’T GET TO TELL ME WHAT THE ANSWERS ARE TO MY QUESTIONS.

The outrage today has been wonderful.

How dare they make fun of Da Vinci’s Last Supper.

We aren’t sure that DaVinci was a Christian. We know factually he was gay. He was commissioned for the painting, so it’s not like he painted it for the fun of it. And it has been parodied over and over and over again in modern culture including The Simpon’s. My 1987 production of Godspell parodied the image of The Last Supper.

How dare they show Marie Antoinette?

How dare they have drag queens?

How dare they do this and how dare they do that.

Fun fact. Most of the outrage is American.

And it’s funny to think a country that has been around for centuries longer than America somehow has to abide by our supposed morals and values.

Meanwhile, we are still talking about it.

People are still clutching their pearls.

And I think it’s wonderful.

Make us think. Make us face our fears. Make us talk about art in the world. It’s good for you.

I challenge some of you to do a YouTube search for French Theater. Their aesthetic is very different than ours. Always has been.

I can’t wait to see what we do in Salt Lake City in a few years. I’m guessing 500 people sitting in pews singing hymns, with a backdrop of the Mormon Tabernacle. The athletes will be issued fancy underwear and won’t be allowed to drink coffee, tea or booze.

PS. I’ll also say, that several people have posted that the whole argument could have been avoided if they’d explained the art before it aired. And I say, fuck that. Did you really need Oklahoma to explain that the songs would propel the plot? Did you really need Hair to tell you about it’s anti-war sentiment before hand? Did you need Tony Kushner to explain Angels in America prior to you seeing it.

No. The explanation comes from within.

You knew the answer the whole time.

I’m calm, I’m calm, I’m perfectly calm!

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Gay Pride Edition!

Our queer little show closed tonight.

In case you weren’t paying attention, it’s a group of lesbians, who perform skits and songs as drag kings. I’ve had a couple of friends say they were expecting a something along the lines of a drag queen show. This isn’t anything like that.

It’s a full two-hour show. Filled with scenes about irreverent things that we shouldn’t find funny but we do. Think Book of Mormon with drag queens. They walk right up to the line, but never cross it. In fact, we have lots of discussions about whether it’s cool to say or do things. Conversations about consent, audience response, and whether it’s funny or just crude. Sometimes it’s both.

This show, also had two dance groups with us. Friends of the family so to speak. It was a lot of fun, lighting their pieces as I haven’t lit dance in a long time. I was able to do a lot with the 60 or so instruments in the air. I got lucky with the plot from the last group, as we don’t hang and move very little. We change some color and hope for the best.

Tonight’s performance was a little tricky for me.

I started to have a panic attack just as the show started.

For absolutely no reason.

My heart was racing. My hands were shaking. I was a little out of it.

It’s tricky to push buttons on a light board with your left hand, when it already shakes. Oh, and I’m right handed, but that hand was running sound. Add to that, the effects of a panic attack and my hand was insane. So insane that at the end of the first number I hit the go button twice. I was ahead a cue. Then I went back. Then I tried to figure out where we were with the scene change, and as I’m doing that, the curtain opens with work light. Then I hit the button again, and did it twice again. Finally, we were in the right cue, at the right place, and the rest of the light cues for the act were better than ever. But my heart was till racing.

The light cues were correct.

But I get the video ready to play for the end of the act number, hit play and the video starts. It has about 30 seconds of black with just music. I undouse at the end the 30 seconds and there is no video. And I have no idea why it’s not playing. The person on stage is supposed to be lit by the video. She is in static. The music is playing. I’m sitting there hyperventilating.

Finally, about 90 seconds into it, I fade the music. Bring up the house lights and say, motherfucker!!!

One of the kings comes up to the booth, and we hit play and motherfucker, it worked just like it should have. There was absolutely nothing that I did wrong.

We ended up showing the video at the beginning of Act 2, which I think worked better.

The audience was very forgiving, my friends were very forgiving. Adam came up at intermission and gave me a hug. Then the stage manager came up and gave me a hug. The kings gave me a hug.

The anxiety was gone. Act 2 went off without a hitch.

After the show, much of the cast and friends gathered outside the theater before we moved on to the cast party. A very dear woman come up to me and said are you Jeff? I said that I was, and she began to thank me for my work on the show, telling me how much she loved the direction and the lighting. I thanked her profusely, but to be honest, I was embarrassed. In all my days lighting shows, no one has ever approached me that enthusiastically about my work. A complete stranger at that.

By the time I got the cast party, just like in high school, except all the gays, lesbians, and trans folks were out of the closet, and there was booze. Lots and lots of booze, I felt great.

It felt good.

So good that I told them all that we should go ahead and book the theater for November. Let’s do an election day show, the weekend before.

Let’s see if I can convince them of this.

I do hope it’s not another 9 years.

Face life, with a little guts and a lot of glitter.

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I’d like to speak to the manager!!!

Gay Pride Edition!!!

My show opened tonight.

It went well.

In fact, in over all the shows I’ve designed, I don’t remember ever having brought up a cue and gotten an audible gasp.

It happened tonight.

It’s the equivalent of applause for the set when the curtain rises.

Tonight’s show was a celebration of queer theater.

It involved straight folks, gay folks, lesbian folks, trans folks, and some bi folks.

It was about 15 performers and crew, getting their groove on, making art.

It was not high art; we’ll never be compared to Sondheim.

But it was smart and funny. And the jokes sometimes played on the silly and sometimes were intelligent, and unexpected.

It was theater by committee, as everyone had a voice.

I cleaned up the choreography for the opening musical number. The stage manager staged the curtain call. We all helped the MC, write bits and jokes to tell to fill the space, during transitions and costume changes. The performers gave each other guidance.

Fun fact, except for me and the stage manager, not one of the group has a theater back ground. It’s a group of folks, who decided to put on a show, and didn’t let not knowing how, stop them.

The show changed a great deal in the five days we were in the theater. Scenes were cleaned up. Laugh lines played a multitude of different ways to find the comedy.

More than anything, it was a group of like-minded friends who got together, to celebrate each other, their creativity and their queerness.

The older I get, the more appreciative I am the community we have in Maine, especially the Portland area. We can never take for granted the fact that we live in a state/city/community that allows us to be open. Adam and I never fear, walking across town holding hands. We don’t get nervous at work that someone might see us hugging or getting a quick kiss.

All of our friends are equally open.

The openness is all around us.

Today, I drove through McDonald’s to get a soda. The 16-year-old that handed me my drink, presented as masculine with about 2 weeks growth on his face, but he had 2” acrylic nails painted a bright pink.
I thought to myself you go!!!

This pride post, is about our friends. Our life. Our relationships. Our love for each other and our friends.

The truly best part of the evening, was sitting in the open booth, waving to friends as they entered the theater. Getting hugs at intermission. And being celebrated by these friends at the end of the show.

I truly hope, that my LGBTQ friends, and I have a lot of them, have found communities that embrace you the way ours has. That you are able to feel safe. And loved. And appreciated for the special person that you are.

And for you straight friends, love your LGBTQ neighbors. Support them. Love them. Make them feel safe in your communities.

You’ll get a 100% return on your investment.

At the shrine of friendship, never say die. Let the wine of friendship never run dry

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I’d like to speak to the manager!!!

I wrote the body of this post in May of 2021. It was only posted on Facebook. I’ve been trying to find it for a year now, and it finally popped up in my memories.

About three months before my writing career really kicked off, I’d just opened a new restaurant, something I’m on the fence about ever doing again.

We opened about 10 days before the mask mandate was lifted, along with the need for spacing tables for safety.

In fact, someone called the police on us because they felt that we were seating people too close. Life in the time of Covid.

The opening was a success.

We went from 0 to 100 in about 14 days. Business couldn’t have been better. We were short staffed. I only had one manager, me. And it was a zoo. But we were making money, and that was what counted.

Now for the post from 2021.

My new restaurant just finished week three.

It’s a very big success and we are doing quite well. Through continuous conversations with guests, it often comes up that I moved from NYC, and in a previous life I was a theatrical lighting designer.

A pretty good one at that.

I’m often asked how I got from designing lights to restaurant manager.

Well.

Fun fact.

In grad school, while obtaining my MFA at the University of California, San Diego, one of the best theatre schools in the country, I ran a very successful bar out of my office.

I hosted happy hour every Friday for two years, from 4:00 to close.

Which was sometimes 5:00. But more often 1:00 or 2:00 am. And at least a couple of times, the sun was coming up when we all wrapped up the evening.

I’d often open up for days that were stressful, when we needed a little boost to get through the long days and nights. My mentor Chris Parry, would sneak down on Tuesdays and ask for a gin and tonic.

My regulars included classmates, and unofficially our staff and professors who always pretended they weren’t there. Including the chair of the program.

We also had alumni, guest artists, friends, and strangers.

The crowd could be two people if everyone was in rehearsal.

Sometimes it didn’t even include me if I was teching a show.

Sometimes there might be 30 plus people.

We also had glass bar ware and nothing but top shelf booze.

Bombay Sapphire was our gin of choice. Just ask Sarah EC Maines?

We were also known to deliver at least once during tech. Usually during a 10 out of 12. (A 10 out 12 is when you rehearse a show, with the entire team, including actors for 10 hours in a 12 hour block of time).

We’d take orders and bring all the designers and stage managers their favorites.

It’s also because of these deliveries I now drink bourbon. I got sick during tech for my thesis show, and my classmates kept my Diet Coke cup spiked with bourbon as I couldn’t talk and felt like shit. It got me through 8 days of tech and the show looked great.

I also managed to keep the inventory stocked and the fridge full by charging just two dollars per drink. We had an honor system and house accounts for those of us who ran short at the end of the month.

I was a just as proud of doing this as I was the design work I produced while a student.

When I graduated, my cocktail hour was as much a part of my legacy as my design work.

On the day of graduation, I had a cooler stashed off stage. There were about 25 people who graduated in the department graduation. As we were presented our fake diplomas, we were offered the chance to say a few words.

As long as we kept it short.

I started my speech by saying that I’d spent countless hours, and thousands of dollars to be here today, so I’m going to go a little over my time limit. I spoke for about 15 minutes with bullet points on a piece of paper. This was before I-phones so there is no recording, but I was told it was a good speech.

At the beginning of the speech, my friends Tom and Anjee, pulled the cooler out, and together, we distributed Coronas to all the graduates and professors.

At the end of my speech, I popped the top off my own Corona and toasted the team. I was nearly in tears when I finished.

I miss doing design work.

But I like my life in Maine more.

I’ve said a million times that my studies in California made me the person I am today.

My patience.

My ability to see the big picture.

My ability to deal with different types of people.

My ability to know just how much to dim the lights for dinner. And explaining to owners that they indeed needed to spend money on lights that produced amber light AND NOT fluorescent white light.

My ability to not to stab someone in the eye with a fork.

My ability to train new staff.

All of this is an extension of UCSD.

While I haven’t designed lights in a hot minute, my three years were life changing.

So, a big shout out to Mark Maltby for not shutting me down!

And know that I’m forever grateful for my time in California.

And that’s how I went from being a lighting designer to being a general manager.

I posted this, three years ago, and got a few comments. I want to include it in my archives, so that when I write my book it can be included.

And.

I am doing a show in a week. The first since 2014. Small. But I’ll write about that separately.

He was tall, very tall, and his eyes were clear and blue.

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’d like to speak to the manager!!!

For anyone just tuning in, you might not know that Adam and I see a lot of theater. It’s one of the things that we bonded over when we first met.

We both have theater backgrounds, me a lighting designer, him an actor. We both have degrees in the theater, and it’s been a life-long passion for both of us, even though neither of us is involved with actively producing shows today.

As a result of us seeing theater, we visit a LOT of different facilities.
Everything from local productions, to touring houses, regional theaters, and of course Broadway.

As a result of these visits, I’d like to ask that we stop forcing people to sit in theater seats that were designed for humans in 1914.

I’m chubby, so side to side, I’m big. I’m not surprised when a chair is tight.

However.

From top to bottom I’m only 6’0”. This is above average, I know, but it’s not outrageous.

Thing is,I don’t fit in most theater seats in older theaters.

My knees are either buried in the seat in front of me.

Or

I have to sit in some weird angled situation to get my legs out of the way.

At one show last week, a woman apologized because her knees were in my head, saying that she was tall at 5’11”.

Truth is I’ve started noticing this more over the past three years, because unfortunately, even after surgery, I can’t tuck myself into a ball to force myself into the chair.

Right before surgery, there were times where the pain was so bad, from how I had to sit, that I couldn’t enjoy the show.

The first time I saw, Some Like It Hot, I could barely have told you the plot. It was to this day, the most painful seating situation ever.

Adam and I have notes saved on each theater we visit, about how the seats were and did we fit.

I know it will be expensive to fix this problem, but we as humans are getting taller not shorter.

I also know this is a luxury problem, and I’m privileged to see theater in the first place.

I truly don’t expect to have this fixed. It’s mostly me sharing my experience in NYC.

I will say, that when I was in Argentina a year ago, we visited the Opera House, and the original chairs were still in use. They must have been built for super fancy dresses, because they were the roomies chairs I’d ever seen in a historic theater.

Thank you for coming to my Ted Talk.